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Healing Baltic Amber

Healing Baltic Amber

I discovered Amber when I was researching for natural teething remedies for my third son. I will admit, I was not totally sold on the idea but I figured I would give it a try. I bought three necklaces before I found one that was actually real amber. I was shocked how fast it worked! My son had NO issues teething, and actually he cut his molars without me even knowing!

At the time I had many friends and family that were pregnant or had babies so I decided to make a few and give them out as gifts. After I made all my gifts I still had a few necklaces left over so I decided to sell them on a facebook resale page. I sold out in minutes and actually I was having people message me like crazy to make them one as well. From then on I was know as “the amber lady”. I for sure never set out to be in the jewelry making business. but here I am!


What is amber and why does it work?

Amber is one of the most potent, natural substances that can rid us of most of our common ailments such as arthritis, anxiety, chronic illness and teething pain. Natural healing amber stones are an excellent pain relief for head, neck and throat areas, especially for congestion. Amber bracelets are highly effective for controlling the pain of rheumatism, arthritis, growing pains and aching muscles and joints. Baltic amber is also an anti-anxiety remedy that rids fatigue and weariness. In order to truly benefit from natural Baltic amber, you need to make certain that the amber touches some part of your body consistently. The reason for this is amber releases its natural oils into the body when it heats up from contact with our skin. The remarkable health benefits of amber are attributed to its unique ingredient, succinic acid.  Amber is fossilized tree saps mined from the Baltic sea. Scientific research on natural Baltic amber has contributed specific documentation in evidence of its healing powers. It has also been documented that wearing amber against the skin is the only proper way to absorb amber’s natural healing into our bodies. The minerals that make up amber work as a natural pain reliever.

Make sure when selecting amber that the bead is 100% raw Baltic amber. Since the rise of popularity of amber for teething necklaces there are many people trying to sell fake amber. If it is “cheap”, then question if the bead is real.  Most fake amber is actually plastic.

If you are having issues with pain or inflammation you should wear your bracelet on your left wrist. Our bodies natural flow of energy goes from our left to our right as this is the way our blood also circulates.  if you are needing the Amber for  bad circulation, stomach issues, anxiety or allergies wear the bracelet on your right wrist because the amber will act like a filter and pull it through your blood stream and help aid in the detoxing of your body.


Does it actually work?

I don’t have a degree in medicine; I have not done “official” research with graphs and tables. So as always make sure you check with your doctor to diagnose.

What I do know is I have used teething amber with my last two children and I swear by it! My last two babies teethed with no fevers, no drooling and no fussy crying. Actually they would cut teeth without me even knowing! It also has helped me a ton with my headaches.

 


Is it really safe for babies to wear a necklace?

Well, all I can say is it is as safe as the parental supervision. Just like all things, babies need to be supervised. There are so many bad things going around about babies being strangled by the necklaces, but how I look at it is, would you leave a baby unattended in a bath and then decide when the baby drowns that baths are dangerous and should be avoided? No, of course not; the same goes for necklaces. Take them off when they sleep; take them off if an adult is not going to be with them. It’s as simple as that. If they are in the middle of teething you can wrap it around their ankle under their sleeper instead. If you do co-sleep take it off if you are a deep sleeper, there is always a chance you could sleep through a problem. The safest way is to just take if off while sleeping.

Make sure when you buy your teething necklace that they are made with safety release clasps. Also make sure they are knotted in between each bead. When I make my necklaces I make sure they are made with thinner string and not really sturdy knots for the claps. I make them to break if too much pressure is put on the necklace. JUST IN CASE. Also, make sure they are not long enough that they can put it in their mouth. I t wont hurt them, but it has a higher chance of breaking and beads going in their mouths. Also the longer the necklace the higher the chance they can get tangled in the necklace.


Not only for babies!!

Amber is not just for teething, even though it is popular for teething. Amber has amazing benefits for kids, teens and adults as well! I have sold it to people for so many other ailments. The feedback I have gotten from people with everything from headaches to anxiety is overwhelming. I have families who use it for kids who need help focusing in school or have separation anxiety.  I have many people tell me when they feel a headache coming on they will put on a bracelet or necklace and it will start to help release the tension. Amber is good for inflammation; some people will wear it during and after an intense workout. I have a few clients who will wear it the week of a marathon or big athletic event. Right now my 9 year old is wearing his for growing pains! They really can be used for anything.

In conclusion, if you have not jumped on the band wagon yet, give in and try it. Feel free to comment and ask questions or share your experience!

 

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What am I watching


If you are like me you have certain shows or movies you can watch over and over and not get tired of them.
It drives my husband CRAZY!
One of my favorites was introduced to me a few years back when my friend and my brother-in-law was binge watching.  I can remember it just like it was yesterday! I had JUST had my third baby boy, and it was the the beginning of July and it was scolding hot out. So I perched myself right in front of our window unit, connected the newborn to the boob and watch it almost totally straight! All 7 seasons!  Since then I can not even count how many times I’ve re watched it.

The quotes are genius! They are smart, quick witted and for sure memorable!


I love all the characters, and get invest every time I watch even one show. Now that I have watched it a thousand times, I will sit down and watch one when I don’t want to think. It is nice to not have to really pay attention. I have my favorites I will watch when I am in certain moods.

There really is an episode for EVERY mood…

Did I need to laugh?

Am I in a falling in love type of mood?

Am I upset and hate everyone around me?

Feeling nostalgic?!

I love all the traditions they have. The town always has fun festivals and the GG’s (Gilmore Girls) always have certain rituals they make sure to do.

I just totally love it.

What is your favorite GG quote?

Really, I could pick on memorable quote from each episode… but I’ll spare you.
Here are few favorites!

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30 day Blogging Challenge

In an effort to get to know us better, we present to you a 30 blogging challenge!

We found this over at Snap shots  & Adventures. So come, pull up a chair, stay a while, and get to know us.  This should be interesting.

  1. A recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself
  2. The meaning behind your blog name
  3. A habit you wish you didn’t have
  4. A picture of somewhere you’ve been
  5. Your favorite superhero and why
  6. Something you’re proud of in the past few days
  7. Plans/dreams/goals you have
  8. Nicknames you have; why do you have them?
  9. Something you crave for a lot
  10. Your top 5 pet peeves
  11. Your favourite foods and why?
  12. Somewhere you’d like to move to or visit
  13. Your favorite TV shows
  14. Your favorite movies
  15. If you could spend 15 minutes with any celebrity, who would it be and why?
  16. Put your iPod on shuffle, what are the first 5 songs?
  17. What has been your best vacation memory?
  18. Do you have any tattoos/piercings?
  19. Discuss your views on religion
  20. If you had a million dollars to spend, how would you spend it?
  21. What is your guilty pleasure?
  22. What’s your favourite drink and why? Share the recipe.
  23. Write a letter to your teenage self.
  24. Write a letter to your future self.
  25. Write about the worst injury you’ve had
  26. What is your favourite quote?
  27. List all the places that you have lived
  28. Three things you want to say to different people
  29. Who were your three celebrity crushes when you were a teenager?
  30. Share a funny YouTube video
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8 STEPS TO SETTING UP YOUR CHILD’S BEHAVIOR FOR SUCCESS 

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The social media culture we are living in right now shows only small snaps of people’s “perfect lives”.  I feel as if everyone forgets it’s not actually real life. Mommy (and daddy) shaming is spread heavily all around us. If you are like me, you let this penetrate your mind and you live each day trying to protect your sense of “being good enough” for your kids. Anytime they do something that doesn’t fit into that perfect little kid mold, we feel like it’s a reflection of who we are as parents, afraid of what might happen should someone find out our life isn’t as perfect as what is posted on social media!  I have a WILD IMAGINATION when it comes to what people think about me and what reaction will come. Maybe it’s the result of all that middle and high school drama.

 I mean, right?

Remember those years when you thought someone was your friend and had your back, but then all of a sudden you find out they have been making fun of you behind your back or maybe you overheard a conversation about you in the bathroom.  I often joke with one of my close friends about telling me if I start o being “too much”. I don’t want her and her husband to look at each other and say “OH CRAP! Here she comes!”

But the point is, sometimes I think we make decisions as parents and react the wrong way. Our kids are just kids and isn’t it possible we set them up for failure a lot of the time? Wouldn’t it be the smartest thing to set them up for success, making sure we are always in “teaching mode”?  If we are aware of this idea then everyday-activities and situations become positive learning experiences.

  1. STOP AND THINK-Before you react to something out of frustration stop and think. Am I punishing them for being a kid or for being naughty? There is a big difference in how you should handle each of these behaviors. If the behavior is out of disobedience, then a correction is needed to teach what the safe or right choice might be. If they are just being a kid, step back and take it with a grain of salt. Remember kids are still figuring things out; they need to see cause and effect in situations to be able to learn how to react.  Example; My kids LOVE to blow bubbles in their milk. So a few weeks ago my son started blowing bubbles in his milk while we were out to dinner.  As parents we cringe at this. It’s annoying to others, it is messy when it spills, and it is just plain old “not good manners”.  But is this really being naughty?  It isn’t when they are learning cause and effect. A good way to handle this is not by yelling or being stern. Saying ”That really isn’t good manners to do that in our milk, but I have an idea! When we get home lets try it in the bath water.”  Get them a straw and let them go to town.
  2. CONSIDER THE ENVIRONMENT- Is there any chance your child is in an environment where they feel insecure or unsafe? I am not the “give them an excuse” type of parent. However, if I know I am somewhere my child feels unsafe then I will react differently to their behavior. I will not publicly correct it, but will either pull them aside or kneel down eye to eye and talk quietly to them. Often times I feel as if people think my kids are not disciplined because I will not publicly humiliate them. My concern is not what others think, but to take care of them in that situation.  Some kids do not handle busy stores or big parties very well. They will either act out or become emotional. Some of these environments can’t be avoided so just do your best to make your child feel safe. Have discussions with them about what to do if they start to feel insecure and what the appropriate behavior would be. After all, our job as parents is to make sure we teach our kids how to recognize and to react to their emotions appropriately. In life they will not be able to avoid certain situations all of the time.  Do your best to teach them to handle it in a positive way.   There is NO NEED to explain to everyone around you why your child is acting out. Chances are if they are judging you, it has more to do with their insecurities and less with you. Example; A few weeks ago I had a girl in one of my cheer classes and I could tell she was feeling uncomfortable. She seemed very overwhelmed. She raised her hand and said “I am feeling very nervous”.  I was surprised at the emotional maturity this 6 year old girl just displayed. My response was to ask her if she would like to sit out and watch for a minute or come stretch by me?  Her face lit up and she said she would like to sit and watch for a minute.  A few minutes went by and she moved back into her spot and was fine the rest of the time. As adults, parents and teachers we need to realize it’s our responsibility to stop what we are doing and answer the needs of the little ones around us. If you listen and watch, they will show you what they need by their actions or words. It is not normal for a child to have the emotional maturity to be able tell us like this little girl did. But if you watch and see a little one acting out, try to see what the need is that’s not being met.  Sometimes, yes, they are just being naughty, and in that case use whatever correction you as a parent use. (That’s a whole other blog!)

  1. LEARN TO SAY NO! If you are invited to something that is setting you or your child up to fail, learn to say NO! Example; My dad lives in Alaska and we only see him a couple times a year.  When he is here visiting, my family likes to do as much in one week as possible. My dad misses home when he is away, so when he comes home he likes to do as many “Michigan experiences” as possible.  We head to the dunes and climb, we go to all the scenic outlooks at Sleeping Bear Dunes National Forrest, and we like to go downtown and look through stores.  We also go to Mackinac Island or museums.  A couple years ago when he was home, I had just had my fourth baby, and was only 10 days out from having my fourth c-section. I had three older children trying to adjust to another sibling being added to our family. I also had another child who was trying to adjust to not being the baby any longer. SO every adventure out would be a struggle emotionally and physically for me. The kids were all acting out a little, all wanting extra attention and thinking they could get away with stuff they normally wouldn’t  because my husband and I were obviously distracted.   On that day everywhere we went I felt as if my kids were being judged for being naughty and out of control. I felt as if I was being judged for having too many kids and maybe I could not handle them. No one said that directly to me, but it was how I perceived it to be because of my own insecurities.  I always felt as if I had to be included in everything, that by saying “no” meant I couldn’t handle my family or I wasn’t strong enough physically (which after your fourth c-section who would be strong enough?). Finally I decided I needed to make some changes in order to help my kids respond correctly in certain situations. When making plans to accept an invitation, I would consider these things;

A. Can I control my emotions in that environment?
B .Can my kids control their emotions and bodies?

 After answering these questions, when we were asked to go to the Dunes, I said ABSOLUTELY. That was a great thing for them to do, they can run, be loud, and best of all have room to be wild if they wanted.  I knew I wouldn’t be able to do the annual climb, but I could sit at the bottom and watch and cheer everyone on. (However, I did actually climb it with my dad! How Bad ASS  is that?) The next day the invitation I received was that everyone was going to go to the next town over (which was a must every time dad was home) and walk downtown. My family likes to look through the stores, sit and people watch and it ALWAYS ends with ice cream.  And as much as I love this tradition I had to say, NO. I will pass on today’s activities.  There was no way having four kids (one being a new born)  we would be able to live up to all the expectations in that environment. It would be a day of constantly correcting and redirecting behavior. My husband and I would both be cross and exhausted by the end of the day. DEFINITELY NOT A GOOD FIT!  Make sure you are setting your kids up to succeed, and that YOU CHOOSE an environment where you can be alongside your child,  teaching them the correct behavior for that particular situation.

  1. REDIRECT; The number one way to diffuse a toddler or child is to redirect them to a situation that will set them up to make an age-appropriate decision. Listen, I mean this really is the best way to defuse any situation. If your child is in a place where they can make good choices and see that it bounces back with good reactions from you or their social situations, they will be more likely to crave that feeling of success. Being put in a situation where they make a poor choice, the negative reaction will make them remember the good feeling of success from the good decision.

  1. GIVE YOURSELF GRACE; We can’t always be “on”. We will make mistakes, we will over react to things that really are not that big of a deal. Let it go and remember there is no perfect parent. If someone is claiming to be perfect, they are likely just projecting their insecurities on others. It is ok to “reset” your own emotions by going in another room and taking a deep breath. Arrange a play date to be able to vent with another mommy, pour a glass of wine, or just get away for a little while. Everyone needs a break from time to time. And it is ok to admit it. I think that in the present culture, we all try to pretend we have it all together when really we are all just one decision away from breaking into tears. You must be happy and healthy to be able to take care of the people around you.

  1. SET UP YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM; Surround yourself with strong women who empower you. There is nothing better than having a pack of women who unconditionally support you. Find (or form) a group of moms to have a mom’s night out, or set up play dates with like-minded moms. Have you ever heard the expression “hot coals burn hot coals”? It’s true! Show me your friends and I will show you your future (I’ve heard  this from a close friend for years).  If you are a dude reading this, you can see the same thing! Don’t surround yourself with men who are single and/or out on the prowl. Hang around successful, like-minded dads and husbands.

  1. SPEAK TO KIDS DIRECTLY; Often times we are so over stretched and tired we are not able to properly react. But we have kids and it is a must to make sure we realize that they have LITTLE CONTROL over what we do as adults. They did not choose to be over booked and they didn’t choose to be given a poor diet or to be placed in an environment that is over stimulating to them. We MUST remember we are the ones who are responsible. If kids are doing something that needs attention get up and respond. If you yell from across the room they are not going to be learning anything from you. It’s too easy for them to ignore you or over react to the situation.
  2. LET THEM BE LITTLE; This is probably the most important  tip of all. Let your kids be little kids. Let them play, get dirty, and for the love of God let them make mistakes without over reacting. Remember they only get one childhood, and everything we exposed them to will shape them. That idea is incredibly empowering and terrifying all at the same time.

Always remember to stay consistent even when you do not see progress right away. You are planting seeds within your child.  Some seeds (lessons) take longer to grow roots. Some positive results you may see right away. One of my favorite quotes is “Be careful what you say to your children, for one day your words will become their inner voice.” I have no idea who said that, but if you know tell me. I want to shake the hand of that genius!  I’d like to post those words all over my house, basing my entire parenting strategies around them.  Let your kids be kids, and remember both parent and child will make mistakes. There will be bad days of course, like losing control of emotions for no other reason than they are just being little.

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Falling in Love…again

Isn’t funny, how time can turn shiny and new into old and run down in our minds so quickly.  Something that was so desperately longed for can quickly become yesterday’s old news once we have obtained it.

How can we fall out of love so quickly?

In this case, I am talking about our house.  We did a semi custom build about 2 years ago.  It was a process of blood, sweat, and many, many tears. It took about a year from start to finish. A year where we dreamed every single day of living in this home and calling it ours.  We  painstakingly planed every detail. We constantly visited the model home for ideas, measurements, and just to be in that space that would be just like ours.

I remember:
When we hit stumbling blocks and it looked as if our house of dreams would never be ours.  I remember walking through the skeleton of the house and trying so hard to disconnect myself because we feared we might have to walk away from it, and how that broke my heart.

When we finally got the keys to the finished house. I remember walking through it, unpacking all my dreams for the future of this home, and our family.

How is it that less than two years later we find our selves dissatisfied and talking of ‘the next house’. Is it because it’s not the ‘new’ house on the block, because it’s smaller than the newer floor plans, because the fresh scent of construction has faded?  I’m not sure.

What I know is that when I stopped to take a moment to be present in my still new home, I remembered that love is in the details. I remembered what I had started to overlook.

I remembered what made me fall in love in the first place.

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Ignore the gardening items, we are getting a late start this year.

I remembered this door.  I picked this door out all on my own.  It was love at first sight. All my adult life I had dreamed of my own home. Not an apartment, or a rental, but my home. And the images of this home always had a big, beautiful wooden door. When I saw this door in the builders showroom, I knew it was MY door.  I didn’t even ask my husband’s opinion, I just made the command decision. Then I spent months dreaming of wreaths, and welcome mats, and welcoming family in for the holidays.

Processed with MOLDIVI remembered this brick. We upgraded the exterior package just to get this brick.  I cant explain it, but I love it. It just makes me sigh with happiness to see it.

Processed with MOLDIVI remember this porch and the hours spent selecting just the right rocking chairs. As far back as I can remember, my family has enjoyed simply sitting outside and watching the day go by. I specifically remember my grandfather siting in front of his home, watching the day go by and simply being present.

Processed with MOLDIVI remember these floors. I was over the moon when they showed them to us, and when they told us we could afford them. We picked the whole color scheme of the house based on these floors.

Processed with MOLDIVI remembered these walls. This was an option that cost us a pretty penny. But a it was worth it. These walls still make me smile to myself. Only in my dreams did I ever have walls like these, and now I have them regardless if my eyes are open or not.

Processed with MOLDIVI remembered this vanity. Living in apartments, we never had a good bathroom vanity. We spent a good amount of time considering all the options before settling on this one.  The crisp white still makes me feel like everything is fresh and clean. And my bunnies finally have a space to call home.
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Lastly, I remembered this.

Processed with MOLDIVI remembered this little detail, that I am positive, no one else even sees.
Crown molding was another option we really wanted to have in our house of dreams.  I remember when we stopped to look at the progress of the house and I noticed this little edge of molding as I came down the stairs.  From that day on, I took to considering this little hidden detail as a friend of sort. I still see it most days and smile to myself.  This little detail reminds me of our journey in this house. If we ever move from this home, this is what I will miss most because most of all, this detail reminds me to be thankful.

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Grounding

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For years now I have been studying the idea of “Earthing” or “Grounding”. There is a reason that when I look at pictures of my ancestors, they are barefoot. In my favorite picture of my great great grandmother, Vienna Blevens, she is standing barefoot in the foothills of the blue ridge mountains.  I remember sitting with my grandma and looking through her pictures.  When I came across this picture, I was totally fascinated by it. There was just something about this picture that drew me in. I could almost feel her strong energy radiating off the picture.  She was the real medicine woman you heard stories about. She healed herself of breast cancer long before any modern technology or medicine.   She knew how to listen to her body and knew that nature had everything our bodies need to thrive and heal itself. I just LOVED sitting around the table with my Aunt Mary (my grandmother’s sister) and my grandma  listening to the stories.  They would talk about Grandma Blevins teaching them to churn butter and spin cotton.  I remember telling my Aunt how fascinated I was with great-great grandma Blevens when she responded by telling me that I had always reminded her of  grandma Blevins She said we were “like spirited”.

Ever since seeing this picture I have been enticed to research the idea of being barefoot.  Because if she was doing it, there must be a benefit to it.  Sure enough, I came across the idea of grounding. There are the obvious things we get from nature such as water and food, but did you know that even the soil can heal your body? We are being exposed to electrons all day every day. There are things that give off positive electrons and things that give off negative electrons and we need to try to balance these.  When our bodies get over loaded it can affect us with low energy, trouble sleeping, not being able to focus and it can even create an environment in our bodies where cancers can thrive. Things like Wifi’ signals and cell phones give off positive electrons and our bodies are being exposed to this all day, everyday everywhere we go. The Earth gives off negative electrons and can help balance out those positive electrons that bog us down. Spending time letting ourselves be in nature is so important to balance out the natural energy we have flowing through our bodies. In my research, I read that when you stick your bare feet into the soil, your body picks up the electrons and natural energy the earth gives off.  The coolest thing I read was how what ever your body needs most is exactly where that energy attends to first.  You sleep better, have higher energy,  less stress and anxiety and most importantly yet, it can even help speed up your metabolism to help with weight loss! HOW COOL IS THAT?  Another amazing thing about grounding is it can actually be a pain reliever, helping with inflammatory.  I have read in several places you should ground yourself for at least 10-15 minutes every day.

Not only do we need this, but so do our kids! We are so obsessed with germs and keeping our kids clean that they are not getting time to just play. Its so important to let them go barefoot and ground their feet into the earth. The other day I was thinking about this when I noticed while sitting at the beach, that even while swimming we are putting swim shoes on our kids.  We need to let go and return to the simplicity of natural living.  It doesn’t surprise me that ADHD and ADD cases are rising and that our kids are having issues with behavior and concentration. We are filling their bodies with wifi signals and cell phone charges (positive electrons) but not giving them opportunity to balance out these with negative electrons.

I am going to make the commitment to see what benefits will come from grounding daily. Give it a try and see if it helps you and your family!